1. How To Manage Relationship Offences
There are people that God has positioned in your life, they are destiny helpers and they are the ones to help you to your next phase. Ladies and gentlemen, they will hurt you, they will offend you. The Bible says to learn how to manage them, they are destiny boosters. Be angry but sin not. It is key to learn how to manage offences. This is key. Sometimes, many of us have overreacted in little matters and have missed some opportunities. Everybody has begged you on a particular matter, yet you refuse to drop it. While a time will come that the same people talking to you will leave and stop begging you. Joseph for example, after all the wrongs and damages of his brothers, wept and let go. He forgave them, he never hurt them back. Instead, he showed them love. When he was sold and suffering in the prison, he did not weep, but he wept when they were eventually at his mercy because he was surprised that it happened. Listen, whoever is reading my write-up today, those that you need may be busy. Maybe you have been calling them but no response, be careful before you take offence. Something may be happening that has nothing to do with you. They too may be facing some challenges in life at that point in time.
2. Purpose of Relationships
Everyone in your life can not be in the same position in your life. There are people that you are higher than, there are some people that you are at the same level and there will be some that will be higher than you. Define your relationship with everyone. Do not overrate your relationship with anyone. The purpose is key. Focus on your purpose for the relationship, leave any other person around them alone or how the person answered you. What should matter to you should be your purpose not whether you were given food or not. Leave how the people around them attended to you alone, and focus on the purpose. There are people in your life, no matter what happens, do not let them go because you have a purpose in the relationship, even when they offend, you do not mind their mistakes.
3. Types of Relationships
Your relationship with your mentor, boss and benefactors are different. In some relationships, you need to invest time, money and so many things before they work.
4. Focus on the Objectives
There are some relationships that you need. For example, there are people that are very close to me and I have recommended them one way or the other to people. If they had said that I am too harsh, they can not be close to me and these opportunities may never have shown up.
5. Understand the Law of Privacy
When you relate with people, keep their privacy. Learn to keep to yourself whatever you see with people whom you have relationships with. When they hear their story all over the place, they will definitely know that you are the one and they will start giving you space. It is not everything that you see, especially around your principal or people that are above you, that you will carry about. If you are a protocol, security personnel, personal secretary etc. to people, some things will be exposed to you that is not open to the public. No matter what you find out about your boss or someone that is above you, must not be something that you will turn to mock or ridicule them. If you do people such as your boss or mentor will drop you along the way.
6. How to End Relationships
Do not just quit any relationship, let them know why you are leaving and when you leave, maintain contact. You may still need them later in life. Life is in phases and stages, make private matters private. Relationships are like elevators. There are some that will lift you up and some take you down.
7. Marital Relationships
Marital relationships are precious because the moment you say I do, it is forever. So do not let it ever cross your mind that if the relationship with your spouse does not work, you will leave him. If you have the first divorce, be assured that you will divorce up to four or five times in your lifetime because you will then realize that the one you left is far better than the one with you. And if you leave that one again, you will realize that they too will be better than the new one. So stay where you are and make it work. Cultivate your relationship with your spouse and make it work. There is no perfect marriage, marriage is a risk. Anyone married for twenty, fifty or sixty years has been married for twenty, fifty or sixty years of forgiveness, tolerance, patience and care. There are pains, celebrations and all kinds of things. If you are not ready to work and do all things, you do not need to get married, stay single. Marriage is more than love and emotion. Sometimes, your wife can offend you and if you are not a child of God, you will explode and beat her but you have to calm down. And sometimes, your husband can offend you, you need to cover him up. Even if your husband is something else at home do not show it, remember that while you must have forgiven him, those that you exposed him to will not. So, please cover your husband’s mistakes and husbands cover your wives’ excesses. I pray God helps us in all our relationships.