Know that your wife does not plan to hurt you hurt, and neither does your husband. The devil is behind the strife in your home. He is hanging around, in an attempt to destroy your covenant dominion in Christ. But you can choose not to give him any room. Once there is an agreement in the three dimensions of a man’s life (spirit, soul and body) the couple have in their hands one of life’s most potent forces.
Agreement in the body entails not being committed to any other person physically, but your spouse. In the realm of the mind, you should share the same thoughts, imaginations, dreams and aspirations. Just as it was in Genesis 11:6, a husband and wife can also be united, believing in the same things and sharing a unity of faith. It is time couples resolved whatever differences exist between them otherwise they will lose their dominion. If both parties will only purpose to be in total agreement on all issues concerning their home, it will be impossible for barrenness, financial difficulties etc. to have access to them.
When a couple has an enlightened understanding of their needs and is open to the help God is sending them in each other, marital conflicts subside and each spouse of honoured and respected. Each of them, therefore, has dependency needs that must be met. It is surprising to see women who have a good understanding of their boss’s needs but not their husbands. You see, when I got married, my husband and I were strangers, having no understanding of our courtships. This affected our relationship, but eventually, as time passed our commitment and sacrifice to our marriage and home became real despite setbacks and disappointment. A few years after our marriage, things began to fall into place as we began to have an enlightened understanding of each other’s needs.
“Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” (Proverbs 12:18).
We must not allow our past to affect our future no matter what the situation may be. You are wise if you will look at the good traits God has put into your man, and start to affirm, lift up and praise those traits. It does not matter what the situation of your spouse is right now. Your words can lift him and strengthen him. When a man’s spirit is crushed and becomes vulnerable to physical and spiritual attacks. You can begin to cultivate the habit of speaking positive words to your husband. Don’t ever curse him. Remember that you have become one spiritually and that is how some couples fail to notice it because they are used to saying negative things to their partners which later in future affect both of them. Know that what you say is what you will see and what you see is what you get.