Many are victims of their present predicament just because they kept quiet. It is not as if there is no help around, but they refused to call for one. Perhaps, they expect people around to empathize and attend to their needs without saying a word.
Silence is defined as the absence of sound; and you cannot communicate effectively without making a sound. Even the mute calls your attention by making sounds. This means that you cannot successfully communicate in silence; and if there is any message being passed, it can be misinterpreted and misunderstood. Therefore, it is important for you to make a sound that can be understood. Born again wives are not left out of this dilemma because they sometimes suffer in silence, live unfulfilled lives and are frustrated. Unfortunately, in the process of time, many resort to and become addicted to drugs, food, pornography, alcohol and the likes because they feel it will help them out of their predicament. Then one day, after months or years of hiding from the truth, something terrible happens – divorce, a police case, adultery, the collapse of a ministry etc. This ought not to be so. There is no man on earth that can read your mind or successfully discern emotions. This is why you have to open up so you don’t die in silence.
Only God is Omniscient (All-knowing). And even with this attribute, He still demands that we open out mouth and ask. “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you” (Matthew 7:7). Why will you die in silence when there is help around you? Today, you can learn some tips that will help you come out of your shell and seek for help when it is needed.
However, we shall begin with why many refuse to call for help?
- Pride: You need to understand that the Bible says in Ecclesiastes 1:9(c) “… and there is no new thing under the sun.” Whatever might be your calling or assignment, somebody somewhere has done something like it before. There is also someone somewhere doing something similar to it right now. They have confronted and slain the giants you are dealing with. It is wisdom to connect and learn from such people. Calling for help when you need it is not a sign of weakness, rather, it is wisdom. So, do not give room to pride by refusing to seek godly counsel.
Pride, in most cases, is the reason why many do not seek for help when it is most needed. It is a destroyer that has ruined many great destinies; don’t let it destroy yours. The Bible categorically says: “Pride goeth before destruction and an haughty spirit before a fall” (Proverbs 16:18). Do not let the devil deceive you into making you think that you are so anointed that you can handle all challenges by yourself. Nothing can be farther from the truth! Open up and ventilate your life for greater productivity and effectiveness. The Bible says one shall chase a thousand and two shall put ten thousand to flight (Deuteronomy 32:30). What you are passing through might be more than what you alone can ‘chase’. It is not a shameful thing to open up to those who can help.
- Making Excuses: Making excuses for things that are going wrong is another reason why many suffer in silence. Jesus told a parable of how a certain man made a great supper and invited many to come. Despite the fact that all things were ready, they all made excuses and did not attend. The Bible says: “And they all, with one consent began to make excuses” (Luke 14:18). The master of the house was angry with them and brought in others to take their places; due to excuses. Your place in destiny shall not be taken by another!
Abigail is an example of a wise woman as recorded in the Bible (1 Samuel 25: 14-28). She could have used her husband’s foolishness as an excuse for selfishness which would have resulted in a bloodbath in her home. Instead, she opened up;
“Let not my Lord, I pray thee; regard this man of Belial, even Nabal: for as his name is, so is he; Nabal is his name, and folly is with him: but I thine handmaid saw not the young men of my Lord, whom thou didst send. Now therefore, my Lord, as the Lord liveth, and as thy soul liveth, seeing the Lord hath withheld thee from coming to shed blood, and from avenging thyself with thine own hand, now let thine enemies, and thy seek evil to my Lord, be as Nabal” (1 Samuel 25: 25-26).
Stop making excuses for things that are going wrong, having every reason and explanation for why things are not the way they should be. Instead, be a woman of wisdom, take action, make a move and seek help.