Welcome to the month of love, but remember these things. Never date a man only because of love; you will regret it. Date a man because of his mindset and character. Date a man who is not afraid of sending you money; a man who does not mind spending on dates. As a woman, you must never find yourself in a situation where you are dating a man only because of love. You will be very disappointed. Date men who know that a woman must be taken out. A woman must eat. A woman must be protected. A woman must smell nice.
Avoid stingy men. A stingy man is a disaster. A stingy man will eventually become a stingy father. Singles, avoid such men as you celebrate this love month. At least when a man is broke but trying, he is worth a chance. Avoid men who think love is a reason to use a person. There are many men who believe that true love is poverty, true love is abuse, and true love is having a girlfriend you do nothing for. Avoid such men; they will cost you.
Date a man who will help you fulfil your purpose. Date a man whose vision can accommodate yours. Date a man who will help you grow and utilize your potential. Above all, date a man who will help you know and love God better, for this is essential to your continuous growth and wellness.
Also, remember that dating an unbeliever is so stressful. First, there is too much work involved in trying to conform them. Then, there are too many compromises needed for you to keep your own relationship with God intact. You would have to convince that person of everything that concerns godliness. You would have to debate why sex should be kept until after the wedding, not just once but every time you are together. It is a struggle to keep your hands to yourself, a nightmare of running in and out of rooms because you do not want the door locked.
Having to convince someone to apologize after they have done wrong. Having to persuade someone to forgive and forget a wrong that is too small to even be offended by. You will always have to try to get that person to pray with you. Fasting is not even on the agenda in your relationship. There is no spiritual oversight or authority that you both submit to because you are with someone who does not regard that protocol at all. And eventually, he will not even respect your family again.
Getting them to church needs special intervention. They prefer to stream from home because “church is in the heart.” Most of the time, they will only have one eye on the live stream and another on a Netflix series. You need to explain how you are comfortable knowing that you are in a relationship where you both cannot feature in the heart and plan of God for a generation because you are not in alignment with His will.
