When communication is in place there will be understanding, and where there is understanding, are peace, love, and joy. Communication helps out during the marital ‘teething’ period.
The teething period in marriage is a development stage where the couple finds it a little difficult to relate with one another because of their differences. Communication is one of the keys of agreement in marriage to enjoy all-round family dominion. The husband and wife must always agree because this is the key that unlocks the door to family dominion. While disagreements shut the door. Deuteronomy 32:30 says, “How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their rock had sold them, and Jehovah had delivered them up.” When communication is faulty, the following outcomes are inevitable:
1. SATAN LOOKS FOR LOOPHOLES
2 Corinthians 11:3 – “But I fear, least by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtilty, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ.” Every successful home is a threat to Satan’s kingdom, that is why he would do anything to destroy it. Unfortunately, he often gains entrance into many homes through the woman. Women are more susceptible to Satan’s attacks because of their roles in the home. She is usually at home more often than the man. So, she is more available to Satan. He creeps in on her and tells her ‘what makes you different from the man? Are you a slave? Have you forgotten that you are also educated as he is? Have you forgotten your placement in your office?’ If unguarded by the Spirit of God, the woman would be tempted to agree with the devil.
2. IT CREATES BITTERNESS AND TROUBLE
Hebrew 12:15 – “Looking diligently lest any man fall of the grace of God, lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you and thereby many be defiled.” Bitterness starts from very little things. Perhaps, your spouse or a family member did something that hurt you and you have refused to forgive him or her. Watch it, every remembrance of the incident brings pain to you. That is a root of bitterness springing up gradually. If it is not dealt with immediately, it will ultimately trouble you. The term ‘springing up’ connotes a thing that starts small, and then suddenly shoots up. Once bitterness gains access to your heart and is not immediately wiped, very soon it will magnify itself and dominate you. Another thing about bitterness is that it troubles and embitters individuals. You lose your rest to bitterness. If you’re embittered against your spouse, when he or she is in the sitting room, you will want to be in the bedroom; there is usually no rest within you. Bitterness makes you fall short of God’s grace. This means that when you harbour bitterness, you are frustrating the grace of God in your life. And what are you without grace? 1 Corinthians 15:10 – “But by the grace of God I am what I am.” So, you need His grace to succeed in your family.