QUESTION AND ANSWERS (CONTINUED)

These are Questions Asked by Several Women and My Responses to Them. I Hope You Will Learn from Their Experiences.

QUESTION 9

My husband is possessive, he does not trust me and he usually says it out loud. He refuses to apologize when he is wrong. He is very proud and does not give me compliments. He is not proud of me nor does he appreciate my efforts. He has openly said to my face that he hates me. Kindly explain, how do you know that a man loves you? Please explain in detail, what is expected from a husband who loves his wife?

ANSWER

My sister, love can never be covered. The Bible in 1 Peter 4:8 says, “love covers a multitude of sins.” From these questions, I can say that you did not study each other before your wedding. This is a fundamental problem which is why I advise single sisters to marry someone who loves them more than they love him. Women, in general, don’t easily fall in love, but the moment we are in love, it is settled. But when men are not in love as much as their wives, there will always be a problem. And they (men) will pick on every issue. Even what they can easily settle or overlook, they will pick on it. This is why he can openly say to your face, and even in the presence of others, that he hates you. And when there is no love, there cannot be trust. He will always suspect you. This is why a husband won’t forgive offenses after many years, referring to it whenever there are issues. The man who does not love you cannot appreciate you. He can only appreciate you when there is love. So, your top priority is to pray for him to genuinely love you just as Christ loves the church. No matter how much a man pretends to love you, you will know if he does not. The way a man handles issues will reveal how much he loves you. If he will care about your feelings, health, welfare and emotions. So, my sister, in this you need to be calm and get your bearing. There is no reversal (divorce) here, you can only focus on the next thing to do, so, relate with him in love. Yes! It is difficult to relate with such men in love, but pray that God should help you in this matter. And as time goes by, he will reciprocate it, though not as fast as you may want it, but the situation will motive him to do so. Talking about apology, it is when he has feelings for you that he sees it as a necessity to say sorry, and it takes a man who has the spirit of God to admit that he is at fault. Pride and ego will not allow most men to admit this. As for you, with all you have mentioned, if you are not careful to forgive, you may end up being bitter. And bitterness is a danger to your Christian identity. Forgive him and let go. Yes, it is difficult, very difficult, but to be able to finish your Christian race well, you need to let go. Remember, a bad marriage can deny you from making heaven. I pray for you that God will see you through in Jesus name.

 

QUESTION 9

Ma, I’m fed up with my marriage; my husband beats me regularly.

ANSWER

It takes two to tango; a soft, gentle and thoughtful answer turns away wrath but harsh, painful and careless words stir up anger (Proverbs 15:1). Every man has the tendency to be violent, but those with the grace of God in them suppress this tendency. A man is like a square with each side painted a different colour (red, blue, white and black). When you put the square in front of four different women with each woman facing a different side, you will realize that each woman will only get to see a different colour. Now, representing each side are anger, violence (beating), love and care. This shows that every man has in him the tendency to be loving and caring, likewise the propensity to be violent (and a beater). It now depends on the response of the wife when he is angry. Do you get angry along with him and reply with words that fuel his anger? This can result in you being beaten. You can decide that no matter what he says, you will not reply him in anger; that you will admit to faults at first and later, when things are calm, you will discuss the issue. However, there are exceptions, because there are men who will still choose to beat you even when you reply with soothing words. In this case, separation is advised for safety, while continuous prayers are raised for him. Please note, separation does not mean you can remarry.

ERA OF FRUITFULNESS (Genesis 1:22,28; 8:17; 9:1,7)

I welcome you very specially to the month of September, the ninth month of the year and the month of fruitfulness. It is my prayer for you reading that the Glory of the Lord will descend upon you this month and it shall bring fruitfulness and increase to you, your family and the works of your hands in Jesus Name.

What is fruitfulness? It is the grace of God that brings reward to your efforts and the works of your hands. Fruitfulness takes away sweat and unfruitful struggles from your life. When God created man, He gave him dominion over every other creature and granted him grace to multiply and be fruitful in every area of life (spiritual, physical, material, social and career).

I would like to share with you conditions precedent to being fruitful.

  1. You need to have a relationship with the God of fruitfulness: Exodus 23:25-26 – “And ye shall serve the Lord your God, and he shall bless thy bread, and thy water; and I will take sickness away from the midst of thee. There shall nothing cast their young, nor be barren, in thy land: the number of thy days I will fulfil.
  2. You can only be fruitful when you’ve planted a seed: Isaiah 55:10 – “For as the rain cometh down, and the snow from heaven, and returneth not thither, but watereth the earth, and maketh it bring forth and bud, that it may give seed to the sower, and bread to the eater.

It is only when you sow a seed that you can be fruitful because it is a settled spiritual principle that fruitfulness will only respond to your seed. So, if you do not plant nor sow, you will not reap anything. The Grace of God and the anointing for fruitfulness will only multiply what you have planted and not what you kept in your hands.

Proverbs 11:24 says, “There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty.” And the next verse (Proverbs 11:25) says, “the liberal soul shall be made fat and he that waters shall be watered back.” This is the scripture and a fact of life; learn to sow the seed of goodness and benevolence this month and it will surprise you how fruitfulness will follow you. It is important to note that your seed also includes your biblical obligations to the kingdom of God, and your tithe, offerings and first fruits are seeds which have the potency to bring fruitfulness into your life. It is my prayer for you, once again, that the Lord shall make you fruitful this month in Jesus Name.

PRAYER POINTS

  • Thank God and give Him praise for the gift of life, and the miracle of sleeping and waking up. Thank Him for bringing you into the month of September.
  • Father, let Your will be done in my life this month of September in Jesus Name.
  • Father, please grant me and all my family members maximum protection as we go out and come in this month in Jesus Name.
  • Father, the ninth month is the month of fruitfulness, please make my life and career fruitful in Jesus Name.
  • Father, please let this month be greater than the first eight months of this year put together in my life in Jesus Name.

Shalom!

MONTH OF POSSIBILITIES AND FRESH UNCTION (1 Samuel 16:1-13)

I bless the Name of the Lord for the privilege He has given us to witness another great month; the month of August, the eight month of the year and the month of a New Beginning. May God’s name be glorified in Jesus Name. It is my earnest prayer for you reading this bulletin, that it shall be well with you, the Hands of the Almighty shall be strong upon you for protection, no evil eyes will see you and no evil hands will touch you, and the presence of the Lord will abide with you in all your going out and coming in this month in Jesus Name.

The bible text (1 Samuel 16:1–13) is a reflection of the potency of the power and the unction of God when it’s operating in someone’s life. With the anointing of God upon your life nothing shall be impossible. This is the story of David and I pray that the same Grace will operate in your life in this month of a new beginning in Jesus Name.

It is important for you to understand that there is always an appointed time to every individual and I believe God that this is your appointed time in Jesus Name. Like it happened to David, when your time comes the Lord will dislodge everyone who has been occupying your position. It does not matter whether it is done legally or illegally; once it was David’s time to fulfil his destiny, Saul made a mistake in disobeying God, and God sent Samuel to anoint David and bring him into prominence. God will dislodge everyone sitting on your glory and everyone occupying your position in glory today in Jesus Name. I decree that your God-sent prophet and helper, someone who carries God’s glory and unction to help you fulfil destiny, will locate you today in Jesus Name.

Another thing that is very notable in the passage is that David’s father hid him by sending him out of the immediate vicinity, but God brought him out by the anointing. God will locate you and bring you out in this month of possibilities and new beginning by the anointing in Jesus Name.

Brethren, please make your relationship with God a priority this month and do not allow any form of sin to come between you and God, and it shall be well with you in Jesus Name.

Shalom!

PRAYER POINTS

  1. Thank God and give Him praise for the privilege given you to see another month; thank Him for the gift of life and the miracle of sleeping and waking up.
  2. Father, please give me the grace not to offend you anymore and to live holy throughout the month of August in Jesus Name.
  3. Father, let my divine helper locate me and favour me this month, and let me receive divine lifting in Jesus Name.
  4. I decree and declare, in this month of new beginning, let new glorious things happen in my life, visit my family for great testimonies of breakthrough and fulfillment in Jesus Name.
  5. Lord, let the latter part of this year be greater and more blessed than the beginning in Jesus Name.