These are Questions Asked by Several Women and My Responses to Them. I Hope You Will Learn from Their Experiences.
My husband libido is too high. He wants sex in the morning, afternoon and evening, everyday. More so, he is not romantic at all. He does not care about my health, even when I am sick he still wants sex. He does not listen to my explanations.
1 Peter 3:7a, “Likewise, ye husband, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel and as been heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers be not hindered.” Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” Ephesians 5:28, 29 & 33, “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: …Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverences her husband.”
The bible passages above tell us that husbands should love their wives as Christ loved the church. Loving your wife means you love yourself, because after the wedding your wife became a part of you. As no man ever hates himself, husbands also need to love their wives. There must be communication between husband and wife because it will lead to better understanding.
As for the high libido, after marriage there are certain things we adapt to and others we change about ourselves. In this case, discuss your feelings with your husband, I am sure he will reason with you. A woman whom you are not romantic with will always complain. Romance makes a woman enjoy sex.
Ma, please can I separate from my spouse without remarrying? Will I make heaven?
I Corinthians 7: 6-11, “But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.” Matthew 6: 14-15, “For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
My sister, you demanding separation from your husband means he has hurt you. However, the bible says we should forgive one another, and if you cannot forgive your husband, how do you want God to forgive you? Forgiveness is a commandment and moving out is not the solution except when violence is involved. I will admonish you not to leave because there is no one whom God cannot change. Don’t zero your mind to divorce or separation if violence is not involved.
Yes, you will make heaven but how do you reconcile with your spouse if you still live apart even after forgiving each other? You need to forgive and forget.