Many are victims of their present predicaments just because they kept quiet. It is not like there is no help around, but they have refused to call for one. Perhaps, they do not want others to know or feel that without telling anyone, people around them should understand, know and attend to their needs. 

Silence is defined as the absence of sound and you almost cannot successfully pass any message across without making a sort of sound. Even the mute calls your attention by making sounds. This means you cannot successfully communicate in silence; and if there is any message being passed, it may be misunderstood. Therefore, you need to make a sound that can be understood. Born again wives are not left out as they suffer in silence, live unfulfilled lives and are frustrated. Unfortunately, many have resorted to drugs, food, pornography, alcohol and the likes to seek relief from their plights. And after a while something terrible happens – divorce, a police case, adultery, collapse of a ministry and so on. This ought not to be so. No man on earth can read your mind, which is why you have to open up.

Only God is Omniscient (or All-knowing), and with this attribute, He still demands that we open out mouth and speak. “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you” (Matthew 7:7). Why should you die in silence when there is help all around you? Here are reasons why many refuse to call for help:

  1. Pride: You need to understand that the Bible says in Ecclesiastes 1:9(c) “…and there is no new thing under the sun.” Whatever your calling is, somebody somewhere has done something like it before and someone may be doing something similar now. These people have confronted and slain the giants you are dealing with. Thus, it is wisdom to connect and learn from them. Calling for help when you need it is not a sign of weakness. Do not give room to pride by refusing to seek godly counsel. Also, you must be careful to know who you are asking for help. Some people will discuss your situation with friends and make jest of you, while others need help themselves and have not been given the grace to counsel. Pray to know the best person to discuss your case with because the wrong advice has led many into destruction and regret. Godly advice will always give you peace and conform to biblical standard. For instance, any counsel that will lead to separation when the man is not violent is wrong, run from it. If your spouse is doing the wrong thing, you do what is right and one day, it will speak for you. God can do all things, it is only a matter of time. 

I pray that 2021 will be better than last year in Jesus Name. 

Happy New Year.