These are questions asked by several women and my responses to them. I hope you will learn from their experiences.
My husband is having extramarital affairs but he is so smart, every-time I am set to catch him, he escapes.
I thank God for yours and your husband’s lives. Remember, a man will always be a man, you don’t need to set out to catch him because a lot of men will deny such accusations. What you need to do is to be more prayerful than ever before. Secondly, check yourself to see where you may have missed it. And pray for him to have a repentant heart.
My husband doesn’t give me feeding allowance, he only pays the school fees and house rent; and with the kind of work he is doing, he can afford it. He said it is my responsibility.
1 Timothy 5:8 says “but if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.” As a child of God, it is a man’s responsibility to pay the for the house rent, feeding allowance and the children’s school fees. As believers, according to the Word of God, we are supposed to take care of our families. Therefore, you need to pray about it and afterwards, look for someone capable of convincing him on the importance of providing for his family. A woman can also support but it’s not her sole responsibility. When you take care of your family, God will direct His blessings to you.
Mummy, my husband does not appreciate any of my efforts, instead, he nags and curses regularly.
This attitude shows that your husband has not surrendered his life unto God. Your wife, after marriage, automatically becomes a part of you (husband), so how can he curse and beat himself? Foremost, you need to pray for the salvation of his soul. When he is saved, his mind and attitude will change. As a believer, you are not permitted to leave your unbelieving husband, but you can bring him to Christ through your godly character. Peradventure your husband is a believer, because you did not mention it, and he is still doing all these things, then you need to intensify your prayers asking for the manifestation of the fruit of the Holy Spirit in his life while you increase your patience.
What can I do Ma? My husband keeps comparing me with his mother, sisters, past girlfriends and women around him.
You can start by looking for a time when he is in a good mood to prayerfully discuss it with him. It is wrong for a man to compare his wife with his mother, sisters or past girlfriends. It is a bad attitude. Everyone is unique, we all have our strengths, differences, and weaknesses. This is why Christian courtship is necessary because it allows you and your intended spouse to discuss your likes and dislikes before marriage. You can also discuss it with his mentor, but if he doesn’t change his ways afterwards, don’t take it so seriously, he will get over it.