Marriages do not break in a day. It happens gradually but many wives refuse to see it happening in their marriage. The bible says in 1 Peter 5:8, “Be sober, be vigilant, because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour.”  Change is inevitable in life as well as in marriage. The reality of marriage will keep changing for you and your husband as time goes by. It may be dominated by passion in the first years, and later become commitment-oriented. The permanence of marriage does not mean happiness. That your husband is still at home with you does not mean he is happy in the marriage. An unfulfilled expectation is one of the major causes of men seeking satisfaction outside of the home, but it is not justified because Proverbs 6:30 & 32 says, “People do not despise a thief if he steals to satisfy himself when he is starving” and “Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding he who does so destroy his own soul.”

A Vibrant Marriage is one where the couple shares large numbers of practical work-related and leisure interests, where they feel great enthusiasm for doing these things together. It is common in the early stages of marriage, usually in the first year, when they still go out as if they are dating. Some people are lucky to have this fire burning for a long time and may know how to rekindle the flame when it seems to be burning out. However, the truly vibrant marriage is not as common today, though many people feign vibrancy.

The next level of vibrancy is called the Vital Marriage. This is probably the best one can expect today. Here, couples enjoy doing things together but lack interest in things they do not share in the marriage.  I say it is the best one can expect because the marriage remains the most important focus of the partners and they do not seek any sort of external satisfaction.